I still remember vividly how we met. It was just three months before… The unforgettable three months of my 2011.
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Last week in september, it was. A friend and I went to meet him at the cinema. He was so funny… we “forcefully” saw a movie together. He kept cracking me up, telling me I “funkified” my name et al. I thought to myself that because he had a great british accent, he would never stop talking… Oh, and of course, he never did.
Three months it was… Three months of disturbance… Three months of friendship… Three months of visit… Three months of change…
We didn’t see in about three weeks. He would call me up on different occasions – “come see me” he’d say, in his british accent. But then, I was always “busy”. If only I had known he wasn’t going to be around for long, I probably would have been the one bothering.
We got talking one day, and I can never forget the joy it brought me to find out we were almost birthday mates. 24th and 25th?… So close. We had a few other things in common and he usually teased me with compatibility. He liked to talk, but not just talk, he always made sense.. He told me things that necessarily shouldn’t be told. He had a dream. It was just three months, yet I knew so much.
Trust me, it’s almost impossible to put every memory into words. Is it when I got a free iRep Tees from him two weeks after we met, just so I could rep him at his party at Oniru? Is it all the visits he paid to my house or his favourite chair in the house? Is it the money he just woke to give me one early morning, because he said I “sounded” broke the previous day when we were together? Is it strolling to the pharmacy with me to get multivitamin because I complained I wasn’t feeding well? Is it sending almost all my songs to his phone because he felt I had a good sense of music? Oh my, what a friend he had become… in such a short while.
Dec 25, 2011… a day I would never forget in a hurry. He actually wanted me to tag along to Elegushi… But my last reply was that I was going to eat “Christmas rice” at my friends’ and so couldn’t go. If only I had known that would be the end… If only I had known his status wouldn’t change… If only I had known his dp wouldn’t… If only I had known that was the last opportunity to see him alive. He didn’t send any bc messages that night…or the next day. And then our mutual friends status the next day… “No! This can’t be true, syntillate!!”
I confirmed my fears. I pinged his battery out, Syntillate wouldn’t reply me. I called his phone, Gafar wouldn’t pick up. It was like a movie to me, I didn’t want to believe it was real but of course, it was. His phone kept ringing but nobody answered. I rushed to my friends house… But then, I had confirmed my fears. It was all over!! The good times were put to a hold. It was just a few days to the new year… A few weeks to our birthdays. But it was all over… Syntillate was dead!
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I still grieve. It’s a year now, and I still grieve. It seems like yesterday. I remember crying my eyes out as he was being buried. I will never forget him in a hurry. I had the best three months anyone could have had with him in five years. The memories will continue to linger. I miss Syntillate, I miss Gafar. May he continue to RIP.
This is dedicated to everyone that has lost someone, may God give you the fortitude to bear the loss. And may the dead continue to rest in peace. To those who haven’t, may you never experience the pain that comes with the inevitable.
I remain @Bilkisses
#IRepSyntillate
‘kisses always!
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